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Lady Rosalie Langmod <[log in to unmask]>
Mon, 17 Apr 2017 16:24:41 +0000
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I'm going to save myself and everyone else some time by saying, "ditto," to Mathurin.

What I read from your email was that you were seeing the self-defeatism rather than the trying and many in our group have been broken by the real world and struggle to overcome self-defeatism in addition to gaining skill in their pursuits, so I try to look at the hope beyond the fear. It's the people not participating in the Arts and Sciences at all that truly concern me because they're still listening to the voice telling them they suck. The ones trying are giving that voice the bird.

Because your message seemed to be directed at the people who entered the competition, I felt that the people trying were the ones held under scrutiny.

You don't know how glad I am to hear that I misunderstood. :-)

Practice doesn't always make perfect, but you never know until you try.

I am truly sorry if my words were too harsh.

From: Historical Recreation in the Kingdom of Calontir <[log in to unmask]> on behalf of Rex Deaver <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Monday, April 17, 2017 3:48:57 PM
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Subject: Re: [CALONTIR] K A-S Championship and Tri-Levels Thoughts

Your Lordship,

I did not wish to imply that you intended such, and I also offer my apologies. My caution, and it is one that I learned only imperfectly and late in life, is that when we achieve a certain level in whatever endeavor we choose, we become examples. And our intent, our enthusiasm, must be tempered by understanding that it may appear...overwhelming and those seeking exemplars. Just as your enthusiastic, and laudable, post was perceived at least partly that way by Rosalye, such a statement when judging a person's entry might have the opposite effect to what you intended.

And, for those who receive such words, a reminder that we are all just mortal. Our exemplars are just persons, and may express their ideas imperfectly, and their words need to be given the most charitable interpretation, not the most negative one.

Again, both things are advice I must remind my self of more than I would wish. :-)

Non nobis solum

On Mon, Apr 17, 2017 at 10:09 AM, Vels inn Viggladi <[log in to unmask]<mailto:[log in to unmask]>> wrote:

Master Mathurin, Lady Rosalye, and others;

It appears there is a misunderstanding of my words and my intent. For any lack of clarity, I offer my apologies. I wish to encourage others to attempt more than they are certain of. I wish to promote growth in these fields, and encourage others to believe they are more capable than what they believe. Lady Rosalye's example of the sewing entry is exactly what I would hope others would take to heart from my words.

I am not at all inferring "leave it at home." I am saying that if you chose not to do something because someone tells you it is hard, then you are failing yourself. I am encouraging others to not "play it safe," but to look for that next step and make it yours.

I am declaring "I believe in you, and you should too."


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