Aw Geeze Alvira! I am so so sorry to hear that! The older we get
the more poignant this all becomes! I shall certainly toast ye both
for the joy, fullness and revelry you both shared in the spirit
Mike/Duncan indicated he wanted! I wish I had known him. I believe
through you I already do.
Shane/Alastair and Household and Ye Lion's Goblet Tavern
>It is with a heavy heart that I pass the news to you that my beloved
>has left us. Around 10:30 pm Saturday night his body could fight no
>more. He had been suffering with a virus for a few days and was
>admitted to the hospital for hydration and treatment for a heart
>arrhythmia. We were sent home as the doctors felt that after a
>night of hydration and medication he would be fine.
>It was found after he coded the first time he was bleeding
>extensively into his brain and organs. You see he kept postponing
>his coumidin blood checks and had a level of 20, normal is 1 and 2
>is normal for heart valve patients. Brennan and I were able to see
>him and say good buy. He could not and did not respond, but I know
>his soul heard. I gave him permission to go if he needed to.
>Mike was very clear as to what he wanted. He did not want to be
>kept alive on machines if there was no hope. He wanted to die with
>dignity. He abhorred embalming and funerals. His wish was to be
>cremated and I have instructions as to what to do with his remains.
>Instead of a funeral he wanted a party, where his heart family and
>friends could tell stories and raise a glass.
>Understandably I am not at a point to make these plans now. But my
>hope is to have a wake to make my Scotsman proud at Lillies.
>I will let you know more later.
>We were to celebrate our 30th anniversary May 14th. Please
>remember him now and on that day. For he was one in a million. The
>love of my life is but waiting for me. Wrapped in his father's
>step-father's and my father's arms. I take comfort in that I was
>blessed to share this rare and beautiful love for as long as I did.
>I have a beautiful daughter that has all of her father's best
>attributes, a son-in-law whose undying love for her, their
>children, Mike and I is a constant source of strength.
>And I have you, my heart family. I will make it through.
>Please, those of us who do not care for ourselves as we should, let
>us take this as a warning. Duncan could have lived to see his
>great-grandchildren if only he could have broken his addiction to
>food, and learned to follow up on health concerns.
>First hold your loved ones tight, then take a good hard look at your
>life. Mike is at peace, he no longer has concerns, but he has left
>behind a 5 yr old grandson who, as I tucked him in tonight said,
>with tears in his eyes, "I miss Grandpa.", a granddaughter who is
>devastated, a daughter and wife who feel so frustrated that he could
>never see how his health decisions could ultimately lead to this. Alvira