On 11/18/2013 10:40 PM, Lisa M. Brown wrote: > I hate this idea. I have absolutely no desire to be represented > after I’m gone by some sad Coat of Arms on a dusty banner. And I > don’t believe that any of the ones we have lost would want to be > remembered that way. I had always hoped someone would take up Crag’s > Histories and carry on with them. Some day, I'll be gone. If I live my life as I try to, then there will be people who knew me, and miss me. It will be up to them to deal with my loss, and it will be up to them to undertake their lives, and handle their sorrow. In advance, I begrudge them nothing about how they react to memories, and how they will choose to recall me. Gracious Duchess, I too hope that Crag's good work can continue, but it isn't an artificial choice - both may happen, and with good luck both will happen. I miss Pavel in my own way - I tell the stories (cleaned up versions for the mundanes) and I try to cherish goobs a little more, and to understand that one can be outrageous and loving in the same (violent?) gesture. I have learned to see greatness in "more interesting" packages, and to admire people who are as different from me as Yankees are from Arkansas natives. Pavel gave many gifts when he was alive (and some bruises) and his memory is also a gift. I see no harm in cherishing that gift, each in our own way. Tibor